There have been a lot of posts about embedded server. Here is what I have found.Using MYDAC 4.30.0.12. Downloaded the last install for win32 (zip - noinstall) and used the dll from the /embedded/DLL/release/ directory in the archive.
The archive file is called mysql-noinstall-4.1.19-win32.zip and can be found at http://dev.mysql.com/get/Downloads/MySQ ... mysql.com/
drop the dll into the example directory,compile and run. I also had to stop the version 5.11 server that was using named pipes on the dev machine
sorry for the new post... but which one to put it in